Monthly Archives: November 2015

Make your emotions work for you at work


Every cowboy sings his sad, sad song

Bret Michaels

One of the greatest misconceptions of modern times is the belief that ‘happy workers are productive workers’.  As much as there is evidence to back this up, there is just as much evidence to disprove it.

Our emotions are the dynamics which colour our lives. They give moments meaning, frame our memories, and let us know how we’re doing.  The truth is that our emotions drive us in different ways – and it’s not necessarily the good ones that make our work great.

Being emotionally intelligent is knowing ourselves, acknowledging our sensations, and knowing what does and doesn’t work for us.  It is sometimes at the depths of desperation that we are catapulted forward to overcome a challenge; or it is the vehement anger that burns deep inside which ignites the passion to just get something done; or the simple sadness that forces us to face our own truths, from which a greatness emerges.

Artists across all disciplines are renowned for using their deepest feelings to spur their most prominent work. So too, is the average working person driven by stress, which gets them out of bed in the morning.

The fundamental question is not ‘are you happy enough to be productive?’ but rather, ‘what emotion initiates your efficiency, so that the best of you can emerge?’


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Self-care – Paying yourself first


‘Pay yourself first’ is a well-known business principle. For many entrepreneurs however this is a foreign concept, because the business always comes first, the creditors second, and the business owner last (if at all!).

‘Pay yourself first’ does not refer to today’s salary; rather it considers how you save money, and how you plan long-term, so that your time spent in the working world pays you.

In this way ‘pay yourself first’ means invest and save today so that you are able to live a certain calibre of life tomorrow. Paying yourself first is one of the ideologies of self-care, along with exercising regularly, eating healthily, and finding time for yourself to do the things you love.

The value of paying yourself is not just about finances. The concept of looking out for your future self spills over into every aspect of life. So often in business people put everything else before their self-care. Pay yourself first by allowing yourself that time out to actually enjoying the various aspects of your life.

If you forget to make these critical deposits, when the time comes to reap what you have sown, your body may not have been able to withstand the accumulated years of stress and poor self-care. You may also find yourself alone, as the people who continually got in the way of your work, eventually got out of the way.

Paying yourself first adopts the same philosophy as exercising first thing in the morning – you’re not going to gain any additional health benefits from a 5am wake-up, but you are quite simply less likely to skip the gym session first thing than you are last thing. So, the more you embed the habit, the more you perform the act, the more you entrench self-care and enable you to look after yourself.

Do you need help establishing a routine of self-care?  Book a coaching session today (the first session is FREE).

Become a business coach


The only real business coaching course on the market.

From February 2016 we will be running a business coaching training course.

The course has been created by a businessperson and an industrial psychologist, with a combined 56 years working experience both in their own and other people’s businesses. Between them they have 36 years experience using their master’s degrees in business to business coach.

This programme will equip you to ‘business coach’ and build your own business coaching practice. It will impart, amongst other competencies, business coaching skills – you will be able to confidently approach and coach business owners in their businesses.

Completion of this full programme will equip the participant with 250 hours of coaching, business coaching, theory of business, strategic, functional and operational business coaching tools, the practice of business coaching, cloud-based business coaching administration, Business Coaching Accreditation by SA Business Coaches, and access to the Coach in the Corner Complete Coaching Package. You will be introduced to competence-based coaching and business coaching by an industrial psychologist.

SA Business Coaches believes that South African business owners deserve the integrity of a coach who has a combination of business knowledge, business experience and coaching competencies.

Therefore, the SA Business Coaches course establishes a solid foundation in each delegate of both the coaching and real business coaching competencies.


What you get

  • Know-how on how to actually establish your business coaching practice
  • Access to a Professional Business Coaching Tool
  • 250 development hours
  • A ground-breaking, first its kind book on Competencies
  • Professional facilitators who are real business coaches, with over 1000 facilitation hours
  • Real life business coaching case studies
  • Business knowledge and insight given by a successful businessman and business owner
  • Awareness and perception into human Behaviour and business owner behaviour by an industrial psychologist

Course outcomes

  • Coaching competencies
  • Business knowledge
  • Coaching competencies within the business environment
  • Models and styles of coaching
  • Business issues and focus areas
  • A roadmap on how to coach a business owner

Who should attend

  • Coaches who would like to specialise in Business Coaching
  • Business owners who enjoy helping others
  • Ambitious entrepreneurs who would like to start their own successful business
  • People who are seeking a new career or start in life

Dates:   5 February 2016 to 12 June 2016

Modules:  5

Programme:     2 or 3 days a month, over a 5 month period

Fee:    R 26 000

Facilitators: Neale Roberts and Elana Siew

Contact us to book, for the full course curriculum, or for more information.



Creating a personal brand

Those who had branded themselves were treated according to their branding

A few years ago I was sitting at a lunch listening to a woman who specialised in personal branding. The thought kept coming back to me, “Why would anyone need to brand themselves?” All through her endless rambling I rolled my eyes and wondered why everyone else seemed so interested in what she was saying.

Then I started watching people in various situations. It was the most remarkable thing:

Those who had branded themselves were treated according to their branding. They looked good, they seemed comfortable with what they displayed, and they stood out from the crowd.

So, it appears as though I was behind the wave, and was only just beginning to see the benefits of personal branding.

Neil Patel and Aaron Agius ask these three pertinent questions when creating a personal brand:

  1. What one action, decision, or choice has the single biggest impact on the growth of your personal brand?
  2. If you were building an online presence from scratch today, what three things would you consider to provide the biggest ROI (return on investment) on your time and money?
  3. For those looking to create a strong online brand, which online influencers would you recommend they follow?

From these questions you can see that establishing a personal brand follows the same logic as a business brand:

You need to establish who your target market is, and what you want to tell them about yourself. Once you have answered these questions, the work begins – you live the brand.

Branding yourself is about how you dress, speak, where you are seen, what topics you discuss, who you associate with, and what others think of you (which is what you want them to think of you). The result is unbelievable: People start to treat you the way you have trained them to.

If you have a need to be seen in a certain way, for any purpose, start your personal branding process now. The ‘you’ that you create becomes an artwork for others to admire.

Elana Siew

Do you need help building your personal brand?  Book a coaching session today (the first session is FREE).

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What I’ve learnt from working with a coach

d e v e l o p m e n T

Having spent many hours as both a coach, and a coachee, I’ve learnt hundreds of things. Here are the five most life-changing things that I’ve learnt from working with a coach:

  1. It helps to have someone listen

Verbalising your thoughts is a completely different experience to just thinking your thoughts. Actually hearing yourself and creating logical flow, which is only required when you have another person in front of you, completely shifts the perspective to how things ‘sound’ in your head.

  1. I have the answers

When my coach told me that I am resourceful and creative, I was sceptical. However, through the session I’ve become empowered to action my own resourcefulness and creativity. The answers do exist in me; I just need to be open to the questions.

  1. Trust the process

Not all issues and discussions need to have a solution, immediate or long-term. Sometimes in the discussion more emerges, and the process of working through things is enough. When someone (a coach) asks the right questions, it is amazing what my mind can answer.

  1. Coaching works

It’s not a matter of receiving advice or answers. It’s not about being right or wrong. The miracle of talking in a structured and facilitated environment yields the most phenomenal outcomes. I feel remarkably in control of my own life and my goals. The coaching process has solidly ensured that ownership of the shape of my life sits within me. I feel that I have the power that I need to live the life that I want to.

  1. I move forward

Being asked the right questions is not about questioning me; it’s about challenging my train of thought so that I think differently. The incredible part is that without those questions, my mind repeats on the same track. The coaching process creates awareness that I want progression and growth, in various parts of my life. Even if the purpose is not to uncover a solution, I find myself propelled forward in action with a desire to make things work better. And they do.

Elana Siew

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Enduring confrontation


Nietzsche is often quoted for his stance on pain and discomfort, but sometimes when one is faced with surviving a challenge, often we’d prefer to remain weaker and avoid the trial altogether. This is frequently true when it involves speaking to someone difficult.

Think of a marathon runner. They train for hours, alter their lifestyles and make a commitment. When the race is over, they so often say “never again!”, and yet they always seem to think the time building up to the event was worth it.

Why would they think this way? How can suffering and pain be worth a medal or a ribbon?

The reward is much deeper than the ornament received. The reward is a sense of achievement, personal growth, and the significant knowing that “I can do it!”.

So too do the difficult conversations in life cause growth in a myriad of ways that we often can’t immediately see. It’s the knowledge that you got through it, and are a better person for the experience, which keeps humanity keeping on.

“There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged to find the ways in which you yourself have altered.”

Nelson Mandela

Without growing, we are stagnating. Without learning, we are propagating mediocrity. And without facing the difficult challenges, we are underestimating our own capacity.


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